tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post8639861749660618604..comments2023-03-25T03:20:42.126-07:00Comments on anywhere in the rain: The Wife: Not Baby's Mamarainwriter joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14642124857733688867noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-79917893229199743832010-01-09T15:00:28.953-08:002010-01-09T15:00:28.953-08:00Mister Jaycee: Happy New Year to you, too!
Da_K...Mister Jaycee: Happy New Year to you, too! <br /><br />Da_Kween: Thank you for coming by, and leaving your comment. <br /><br />Sometimes my opinion can be unpopular, but I see what I see. Things are totally out of alignment at this point in the game, wherein females go into certain situations KNOWING the outcome. It makes for difficult situations, to say the least, AND angry women! I really don't understand young women these days who knowingly put themselves into a relationship they KNOW won't work. Sometimes things don't work out, and sometimes we know they won't work out, but go for it any way. Doesn't make sense, but that's just me.<br /><br />There are no definitive roles, either. I really don't dig men who let women run them over, or women who are the sole support of the family while their men lie around on couches. Men need to work to support the family, too. I think women should have the ability to work, too, but let's face it. SOMEONE needs to be home to receive the children after school. Who will it be?<br /><br />I just think many men and women don't "court" someone with the intention of a permanent relationship, just a "hook up." THAT'S the problem! Having sex with someone doesn't constitute a relationship. But again...that's my opinion.<br /><br />I'm glad you enjoy the blog. Come by any time. :-)rainwriter joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14642124857733688867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-26406045053182415712010-01-09T10:25:21.516-08:002010-01-09T10:25:21.516-08:00I'm a little old-fashioned. I believe in the i...I'm a little old-fashioned. I believe in the idea of marriage and family...I just haven't met anyone who was unselfish enough to unhook themselves from the "single life" long enough to venture into it with me. I see how and why some women have gone the route of being single parents over sucking up half-assed situations...my mom did it. It's better to raise a child in an environment conducive to healthy rearing than to force a family into a mold that doesn't fit. Yet, I believe that a lot of what's wrong IS the ideas and standards young women have/don't have. Going into situations accepting certain treatment all but ensures a certain outcome.<br /><br />Women's lib did a number on our family values...and yes, men helped by saying screw it and allowing the women to take over their role.<br /><br />I JUST wrote a blog speaking on the mind set of people who should be married and single...and the BIGGEST problem nowadays is a tie between honesty of intentions and instant gratification. Also, yes...men and women need to relearn their basic roles again...and adapt them to the new millennium. Love this blog.Thee_Kweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08407574065109052178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-7780790167346117532009-12-31T10:49:44.792-08:002009-12-31T10:49:44.792-08:00Good post Jones! Good Post! Happy New Year!Good post Jones! Good Post! Happy New Year!achoiceofweaponshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14742415077326783252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-34907459937136893912009-11-16T17:45:18.195-08:002009-11-16T17:45:18.195-08:00I don't know, Dee, but it's a strange time...I don't know, Dee, but it's a strange time. What is now a controversial topic wasn't just a few years ago. How can the tides on any subject can change in a short span of time? <br /><br />No, I can't fathom parenting on my own. I don't think I was suited for that task. I commend those who can achieve it; raising well-bred children against the odds. I guess even in families with both parents, there are parenting issues. (lol)rainwriter joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14642124857733688867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-26177536282381748452009-11-16T12:30:39.072-08:002009-11-16T12:30:39.072-08:00I agree Hun I totally agree! It's not for ever...I agree Hun I totally agree! It's not for everyoneDelaynahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10800059065863939526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-12341012918639467982009-11-15T15:34:49.438-08:002009-11-15T15:34:49.438-08:00Dee: But with that said, you were prepared to han...Dee: But with that said, you were prepared to handled what comes with single parenthood. You CHOSE to become a single mother, and knew the responsbiilities associated with going it alone.<br /><br />Some young ladies half-wittingly go the route of single parenting without knowing the hardships associated with it. They often become embittered because they've given up so much of their lives trying to raise a family without a partner. Knowing you as the strong individual you are, you are well equipped to face all the challenges that these young ladies aren't.<br /><br />It just seems as though there should be someone out there to speak to our young ladies about what single parenthood entails.rainwriter joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14642124857733688867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-42587529741709591372009-11-15T13:39:04.325-08:002009-11-15T13:39:04.325-08:00You know what hun? i carefully chose to be the mo...You know what hun? i carefully chose to be the mother of my children, To hell what their father calls me because you couldn't pay me to marry him after i learned his secrets. Yes i had considered it with our first child who came suddenly. by the time I realized i couldn't commit my life to this person i had a daughter and a son on the way. shortly after my son was born i decided i was not happy and keeping my lil family together at my expense was not worth it. if he really wanted to be their father he would be from another address.to this day, I'm not a fan of marriage. the world is full of deceitful diseased young men and women and I wan my kids to have a safe way out the minute the truth comes out.Delaynahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10800059065863939526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-10789449041735543282009-11-14T08:33:46.807-08:002009-11-14T08:33:46.807-08:00Swan: I understand where you are coming from. Ma...Swan: I understand where you are coming from. Many of us try to make choices that will eventually turn out in a positive result. Sometimes life AND love is a crap shoot: you just never know how it will turn up. <br /><br />I speak to those who purposely do not want to have a male in the lives of their children, but just to have a child without any real support systems whatsoever. Putting themselves in ths predicament is not a very wise choice, but that's in my humble opinion. Many of us have to go it alone after making an attempt at a permanent relationship. And then there are young women who knowingly put themselves into the hardship of single parenthood. <br /><br />It ain't no joke! I've seen women struggling: physically, emotionally, financially...and it makes no sense to me why we as women would purposely put ourselves into such a situation. <br /><br />The problem being is that the many young ladies I see out there consider themselves "wifey" and not "wife." There is a distinct difference: a concept which seems to be way over the heads of some of the women who are up and coming. <br /><br />By no means do I mean any disrespect; just want them to take a look at consequences of their actions. As my mama used to say: look BEFORE you leap!rainwriter joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14642124857733688867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1297423656330190182.post-39646768361434479902009-11-13T17:30:19.873-08:002009-11-13T17:30:19.873-08:00I doubt the young people of today even know the co...I doubt the young people of today even know the consequenses of how raising children will impact their lives. Times have changed, but the ideals of thinking that "love will conquer all" has not, even if it's misguided. As a single parent from the time my son was 2, it's not that I didn't want to work on it, but rather that it seemed impossible. So..in that respect, there's no time for crying while you have a baby to raise, it's time to make money, be mom and dad and take care of business. Do I wish I had the husband and daddy and the white picket fence sometimes (?), sure, but it didn't happen. I have no regrets, being the ex, the baby momma or more importantly the single person that has been there since day one for my kid has given me more in return than any man ever has.<br />Being a good wife is commendable, but it can't happen if a spouse or partner isn't there in body or in spirit. Lucky for you that you made a good choice in choosing your partner in your journey. Many of us didn't, and mant more won't, but life continues on, it's in our DNA to propegate the species even if it's a really bad idea.Swannoreply@blogger.com