Sex Toys and Masturbation: The End of Civilization?

ungloved by rainwriter jones

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I recently watched a show entitled "Japan: Robot Nation" on CurrentTV. Some of the information piqued my curiousity. It was reported that Japan is experiencing a marked population decrease. There are several reasons for this, but I will concentrate on the lack of sexual activity on the part of fertile adults. It is predicted that in 100 years, the Japanese people will no longer exist. Men and women are simply not engaging in intercourse. However, men and women are still having sex: But by themselves!

Here's the link for your perusal:

http://current.com/shows/vanguard/89610631_japan-robot-nation.htm

There's been an insurgence of sex toys that both men and women are using for sexual gratification. No need for a messy partner when you can have clean, neat sex by yourself. No commitment, no wining (or whining), no dining. Just pleasure. It wouldn't be a bad thing if a great majority of the population weren't engaging in masturbation.

There is also a rise in the production of "robotic citizens." The Japanese have developed life-like machines to serve as caregivers, maids, companions, and even a substitute labor force. They have even created robotic pets! And lets be real, if they are using sex toys to climax, why not humanoid contraptions? I can see it now: A ship-load of robotic sex slaves sailing westward, and eager customers anxiously awaiting their very own non-committal, plastic doll!

It's a matter of intimacy, or lack thereof. There is a disturbing distancing the Japanese are creating regarding human interaction. A separation of individuals by means of robotics. However, self-pleasuring has become an exported commodity which is leaving not only the bedroom lacking a partner, but creating a worldwide societal change. Why bother establishing a relationship with another human when all you have to do is turn on your machine? When you're finished, put it away for another time. What do you think this means regarding entire nations which choose not only to be spouseless, but also to masturbate instead?

On a species level, this will surely spell our demise. We've lost the human element: The need to touch another person. The want of making a connection to fellow humans not only on a physical level, but a spiritual one. To bond. The Japanese often set the tone for technological advances, so it's just a matter of time before planet Earth will be smelling like used plastic discard.

And to think a steely dan and a few "C" batteries were the reason for our extinction? We don't need an asteroid to finish us off!

rainwriter jones

Deliciously Down-Low Dirty Deviant Devils

                                  

In the recent past, there have been a series of sex scandals involving high-profile individuals.  As each story develops, I begin to question all the hoopla-la regarding sex, and how some have made a three-ring circus surrounding the act.  There's definitely a difference between someone who enjoys sex or the pursuit of such, and those who are compelled to have sex.   Shall we explore this? 


PART ONE:  Sexual Deviancy

I knew a person that I considered a very close friend that I can classify as a deviant.  I thought he was a very charming and endearing person, and didn't know of his activities at the beginning of our friendship.  Being promiscuous at a young age might have set the tone for his adult pursuits of multiple partners, questionable sex practices, and pornography.  We knew each other for over 20 years, and he held his "unusual" desires to himself for almost the entirety of our relationship.  However, one day while visiting him, I found a few pieces of unmentionables missing from my suitcase.  His constant denials led to an eventual confession.  We haven't spoken since.

Sexual deviancy is a mental health disorder and like with any addiction, it takes larger doses of the drug to elicit the same desired effect.  In terms of sex, the perpetrator tasks bigger risks.  Many may be acquainted with a person they may consider sex addicted, but what is sex addiction?  In my previous blog, "Sex Addiction 101," I list the symptoms as follows:

- Compulsive masturbation (self-stimulation)
- Multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs)
- Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands
- Consistent use of pornography
- Unsafe sex
- Phone or computer sex (cybersex)
- Prostitution or use of prostitutes
- Exhibitionism
- Obsessive dating through personal ads
- Voyeurism (watching others) and/or stalking
- Sexual harassment
- Molestation/rape

To be truthful, I'm sure many of you have engaged in one or more of these activities (me included).  But when does it change from pleasure to destruction?  Possibly when it becomes obsessive and/or detrimental to relationships, employment:  Anything that is important that is disregarded due to having to get the next fix. 

Rep. Weiner is a primary example of what could be considered sex addicted.  From what I've been reading (and what he has confessed), he has had many encounters with willing and unwilling partners, and engaged in exhibitionism and cybersex.  He stepped far and beyond what would be considered healthy sexual desires.  Addicts often hide their abhorrent behavior from family and friends, especially their spouses.  Clues are often left as to their activity, but one needs to be receptive enough to interpret them. 


PART TWO:  Freaks (and the freakazoids who frequent these freaks)...

In my honest opinion, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Tiger Woods aren't sexual deviants, but men who enjoy the company of women:  MANY women!  Hot, lusty freaks that relentlessly chased females, even engaging in sexual activity with them.  It's probably a good guess that Maria Schriver knew about Arnold's tastes for the female gender, and only objected to it when the public was made aware of his adulterous behavior.  The possibility of many other women showing up and a child fathered with yet another woman couldn't be tolerated for someone of her social standing.  She would surely be shunned by her high society friends for allowing him to step out on her like that.  Too calm, too laid back, she HAD to have known.  I wonder what his childhood was like?  Was it okay in his household for the males to have women on the side? 

On the other hand, Tiger liked to do the nasty with whomever he could catch a hold.  His ex-wife Elin didn't have a clue as to his extramarital affairs as evidenced by her using his golf clubs on his ride .  Why he left a trail of text messages pointing a finger back to him is beyond me.   Might as well have been bread crumbs.  In his case, the inability of sexual experimentation may have led to his sexual exploits.  So do you think that having a little "taste" before marriage would have curbed his philandering?  We may never know.  He was sexually underdeveloped as he acted like a school boy humpin' girls behind the portables.  What's ridiculous on his part is that he knew these women would not hold his secret.  And speaking of secrets...

PART THREE:  Somewhere In Between (or the world according to Alec Baldwin)

I followed a link on twitter regarding the Anthony Weiner sex scandal.  It was a real eye-opener as spoken from a "matter of fact" perspective.  Mr. Baldwin is taking the stance that cybersex "...is sex for many people now."  The rest of the article can be found here:  http://tinyurl.com/6h7fjux. 

Can this be true?  I know with the advent of being able to virtually touch anyone on planet Earth courtesy of the internet, we have accessibility to just about anyone we desire to interact with (for any purpose).

Another quote from Baldwin:  "Weiner is so busy, he forgot the important rule that everyone you interact with on this plane becomes a co-conspirator. You rely on them to remain confidential." A fascinating statement.   Maybe part of the game is being secretive:  That raw part of the clandestine affair?  Maybe even moreso than the sex itself? It sounds perfectly logical that holding one's secret is one of the highs of undercover sex.  A wink, a nudge, a confidence held between two (or more) co-conspirators.


CONCLUSION:  The Truth in Advertising

Being up front about sexual tastes/habits with your partner is a favorable thing to do.  Your partner should be able to make an informed choice as to whether to continue a relationship with you.  It isn't fair to hide these facts from someone you supposedly care about.  But if you're lying to your partner, you probably don't care enough to let them go.  Extremely selfish, but so is sneaking around, AND putting your partner ask risk of STDs (believe me, if someone is creeping, they're probably not using jimmys).

Taking the mystique out of sex may alleviate the need for some individuals to lie about their pursuits.  The other person should have the choice as to whether they want to accept their weirdicities," or move on.  It might be a surprise that when you confess, your partner might have a confession or two for you as the knife cuts both ways!


rainwriter jones

P.S.:  If you use my coined word "weirdicity," make sure to give me credit! 

Arnold: The Unwed Father

I have decided to re-open my blog page after several months of not posting.  This spot will be used whenever I have something a bit controversial and/or long-winded in style.  Not wanting to off-put anyone, feel free to visit my opinions at "anywhere in the rain."  

Arnold Schwarzenegger.  Yep, I'm sure you've all heard of him, and the scandal involving him and his procreative activities.  I'm sure his family/wife/friends were aware of him having several women on the side.  To me that's not important.  As long as a couple is aware that either party is "out there," who's business is it other than between the two of them?  My issue comes into play when high-profile individuals deem themselves without fault, often placing others onto their moral compasses, and THEN get exposed for their dealings. 

The love of the female/male form is admirable, and I'm not chastising anyone for getting a taste here and there, but I don't think of sex as love:  It's an act.  But again, that's my opinion.  Things were probably cool between Arnold and Maria until the word got out regarding his secret child.  Since she would look disgraced in the eyes of her contemporaries, all of a sudden, it wasn't cool that Arnold was "out there."  Who's the hypocrite?  Damn, cut him some slack, Maria.  Don't play dumb now!   She probably stopped having sex with him years prior.  And who knows?  She might have knew about the child(ren) in question. 

Have your fun, but don't make children or bring home diseases. 

But...this is only my opinion.  Please feel free to leave yours, but don't be cruel in how you relay them.

rainwriter jones

Beyond The Sheets: "Friends With Benefits?"

Do you believe that men and women can engage in sexual activity, but still remain friends?

I know of several men with many female acquaintances who treat their bedroom doors as revolving ones. They say they admire the female form, and enjoy encounters with anyone they can persuade to lie beneath their covers. They're called friends or company. To have sex with and nothing more. These women leave in the morning, supposedly with no strings attached. One man in particular says he wants a long-term relationship: someone to come home to that he can love. If having sex is strictly biological, why would he say this? Problem being is he also says the females he beds aren't "good enough." Are there different categories of women: those to bed versus those to marry? A woman to only use for sex, but not for anything else? He says he's looking, but yet in still...here comes another woman to his bed. But even with this, there's a distinct yearning for more than just the physical.

The same can be said for women. We say we don't want anything more than sex, but is that true? With us languishing in the orgasmic afterglow, I beg to differ. We would leave immediately if that was all we wanted. To snuggle, cuddle, and wake up with this person can be more enjoyable than the sex. Thoughts can linger in the back of our heads as to whether something else can come out of the bedroom...to bring this "relationship" to another level.

Is there an underlying need to connect: to feel affection with the person we sex? Emotions ALWAYS seem to creep in, whether we're willing to admit it or not.

rainwriter jones