Peeking Through The Key Hole: Three Songs For Romance

Today we celebrate another anniversary together.  We fell in love quickly; marrying only after a 3-month courtship.  I knew he was "the one" after our very first kiss!

The weather is the same as it was 23 years ago, partly cloudy with occasional rain showers.  I remember quite clearly the image of my future husband standing in the doorway of the courthouse, smiling and nervous.  Taking on this new responsibility of a wife; promising my Father he will honor and cherish me.  I know he is smiling down from Heaven knowing I made a good choice in my marriage.

I have this strange habit of associating a song with a particular time/event.  There are three songs that play to our relationship:

1.  "Something About You" by Level 42.  This is the tune that I knew I had to learn more about this man who made me pause in 1987.  He was different than the average man enjoying a large variety of music, always striving towards improving his circumstance, and funny as hell!  Different:  like me. 

2.  "I Don't Run From Danger" by The System.  We rolled to this back in the day:  before marriage, before children, before everything we are at this moment.  This is where we cemented our love for each other.

3.  "Always" by Atlantic Starr.  Our first dance was to this tune.  It still brings a tear to my eye as I remember the couple featured on the video young like we were, and then standing aged on the porch watching their children and grandchildren.  We have followed their timeline. 

As I watched my husband sleep this morning I wondered:  What will be the fourth song of our union?  I guess I'll just have to stick around to find out!

Happy Anniversary.  I love you more than the day we said "I do!"

As Always...

~Korky

Beyond The Sheets: "Friends With Benefits?"

Do you believe that men and women can engage in sexual activity, but still remain friends?

I know of several men with many female acquaintances who treat their bedroom doors as revolving ones. They say they admire the female form, and enjoy encounters with anyone they can persuade to lie beneath their covers. They're called friends or company. To have sex with and nothing more. These women leave in the morning, supposedly with no strings attached. One man in particular says he wants a long-term relationship: someone to come home to that he can love. If having sex is strictly biological, why would he say this? Problem being is he also says the females he beds aren't "good enough." Are there different categories of women: those to bed versus those to marry? A woman to only use for sex, but not for anything else? He says he's looking, but yet in still...here comes another woman to his bed. But even with this, there's a distinct yearning for more than just the physical.

The same can be said for women. We say we don't want anything more than sex, but is that true? With us languishing in the orgasmic afterglow, I beg to differ. We would leave immediately if that was all we wanted. To snuggle, cuddle, and wake up with this person can be more enjoyable than the sex. Thoughts can linger in the back of our heads as to whether something else can come out of the bedroom...to bring this "relationship" to another level.

Is there an underlying need to connect: to feel affection with the person we sex? Emotions ALWAYS seem to creep in, whether we're willing to admit it or not.

rainwriter jones

And They Do Grow Up...

I had an interesting evening yesterday. My elder daughter brought home another boyfriend, but nothing like the dudes she'd brought by as of late. This one actually works AND has a car! He drove 2 hours round-trip to cook dinner for us. I couldn't believe that there were actually gentlemen left out here in this twisted world!

He shone through with flying colors, impressing me more than my husband, that he would actually do something like this for us. Brought her flowers, too! While we were at the table, he told me that he's saving up for a ring. I don't know if I'm quite ready for that, but I guess I'll have to...some day. :-)

rainwriter jones