Total ridiculousness! There aren't many topics which chap my hide as
much as that of a whiney, out of control teenager complaining about being
disciplined. As Americans, we are taking children's right to be
autonomous way too far. When do we as parents/adults have the right to
Back in the day, I remember when parents not only had the right to spank
their kids, but even the principal's office would take a swing or
two. I'm going to tell you something, when you knew all the adults in
your life not only the right and/or obligation to discipline your
ass, you straightened up: QUICK! Today, you can't only not
spank, you can't even tell a child that they are out of line for fear they'll
call Child Protective Services (CPS).
Rachel Canning, a New Jersey high school honor student, is suing her parents
for abandonment, demanding they provide financial support and pay for her
college tuition. She also claims she was forced to leave their household
once she turned 18. Her parents say she was a willful child with whom
they tried to instill rules to stop her rebellious behaviors. Long story
short, she's at odds with her parents because she wanted to break house rules,
party, and live with her boyfriend. Ha! I think the boyfriend's
family are idiots for taking in this willful child, and they will live to
regret it. But that's for another blog post. Where did Rachel's
parents fail so that she thought she could run to others for support of her
childish behaviors? Should the court actually intervene on her behalf to
seek a financial remedy of which she made of her own volition? Time to
feel the real sting of not having the shelter of your parents' nurturing,
Rachel! In other words, you reap what you sow. This is where adults
come into play: Though the courts aren't allowing us to take
charge. Instead, they reprimand us for taking a strong parenting
I know of someone going through a similar situation.
She and her husband took in a foster child with behavior problems and
like Rachel, had her own idea how life should be led. She's been very
defiant; difficult to redirect. As they encouraged her to go to
school (as opposed to skipping it); not to lie, cheat, or steal (she already
had a felony on her record); and for God's sake: To clean her room, how
did she repay them for opening their home to her? By calling CPS!
Today, children know that overzealous investigators will indeed come out,
thusly gaining the juvenile response they wanted by getting their caretakers
"in trouble." When speaking with another grandparent, I had to
chuckle when she told me she handed their granddaughter the telephone, gave her
the number to CPS, and lastly, told her to pack her bags to go with them!
I'm not sure that the powers that be realize in allowing children to
become autonomous before they have a full grasp of all the consequences of
their actions/inactions is criminal unto itself. Without proper guidance,
they are left to their own devices and let’s face it, if they were capable of
making proper choices, they wouldn't get into the fixes in which they
often find themselves. Adults make fouled choices, too, but the
difference being is that we know better!
There needs to be a better plan in helping children grow as productive
adults that doesn't involve the legal system. Untie our hands: Let
Today my husband showed me a photo his long-haul trucker brother texted him of a young brutha
on a HUGE billboard outside of Kansas City, KS. Why was he there? Not
because he was a celebrity, but he is Kansas' most wanted criminal!
Young man, only 23 years old, wanted for two murders (amongst other
crimes). How did he end up being a "wild animal thing?"
I've been so noting with the youth of this generation is that they live
for drama. There doesn't seem to be a need for peace and enlightenment
like in the 60s; they stir the pot until it's overflowing
(attention-seeking behavior)? The violence associated with this drama
is appalling, but the apathy is even worse. They don't care. But, why
should they? The current mindset of the establishment doesn't allow for
second chances. Yes, many folks get "caught up," but those who have
the money are allowed to have their hands slapped, then continue on with
their lives (even get their own t.v. shows or a memoir about their
experience). Meanwhile, those who don't have the means to buy their way
out of legal or financial troubles are left living under bridges! Lets
face it, why should these young folk care? In a country wherein the
citizens would pay $3,600 for a Superbowl ticket, but are unwilling to
pass a levy to improve their schools shows that there is a disconnect.
What's more important? Watching a football being tossed back and forth,
or assuring that our young folk are getting educated so that they may
take care of US in the future?
College? What is that?
Definition: An educational goal unachievable by the masses. It's
almost as if the lower/middle classes are being targeted to fail. When I
was up and coming, just about everyone had the opportunity to continue
their education past high school. Now a young person has to beg,
borrow, and/or steal to get the chance to further their education. I
grew up back in the day when education was a right, NOT a privilege.
Another right that has been denied by the powers that be. The greed of
a few leave us without roofs over our heads and sleeping in cars. When
there are not only homeless men forging through garbage cans, but
entire families left to suffer at the hands of indifference, there's a
definite problem that needs to be addressed.
can be a blessing and a curse. Petty crimes are now being used to keep
adults from acquiring employment. Along with this, employers often
times do not hire full-time workers, making parents work 2-3 jobs each
to make ends meet. Thus, children are left to raise themselves. With
no adult to guide these kids, they are left to form their own image of
what a man or woman is.
So, this is just a start of how
youngsters become wild animal things. Attention-seeking behaviors
result in dire consequences. What are we to do? Without basic needs
such as food, shelter, education, employment, and love, society will
continue to disintegrate. It's a shame because I can see the future as a
nightmare. Until we start addressing the fact the opportunities we
were afforded before the 90s are not being offered to our young ones, we
will continue to see the decline in our society which is wrought by the
uncaring, greedy corporations and political systems.